You know: girls love with their ears. Because you need to clearly understand: what to say to a girl and this conversation made effective.
At our training has two equally important areas: Speaking and Touch.
The right touch of sexual interest (common mistake — the guy with the girl just talking on a date and even if all goes well, it is with high probability recorded in friends), but touch is not the topic of this article.
To speak is as important as touch. This gives a personal interest. If only to touch you’ll look like either a maniac, or a failed „macho“.
What to say to a girl on a date? How to chat with a girl? The rules of communication.
Our experience proves that you can talk about almost everything. Girls perceive any information. It’s not what you say, it’s how. If the pitch is not up to par, then any, even the most interesting, the information will not cause any emotion.
Bear in mind that touch on religion, politics, work or study (the exception are the curious cases of student life) at the beginning of the experience just not worth it: the mood of the young lady spoil, and the theme is not for a first date.
Exclusively male subjects to raise, too, is not worth it. Don’t talk to her about beer, football, war, and other things that mostly only interested in men.
Let the girl feel heard and understood. Give her the feeling that you are on the same wavelength. Talk to pretty special about summer vacation interests (which suddenly may coincide), spirituality (many girls are addicted to mysticism), do not forget to talk about their future plans, dreams. Any girl will feel a genuine interest in your person after this conversation.
We go further: what questions can you ask girls?
Here everything is simple. Again, our task is to reveal the girl, and the questions should be appropriate. Try to ask questions to the girls so that they were not able to answer with a simple Yes or no.
REMEMBER! When a man does not know what to say — he asks questions. Don’t turn this date into the survey. Ask the opinion of girls and LISTEN to what she says. Very nice to argue with a girl, just remember: your goal is not to argue or prove that you’re right, but to support interesting conversation.
Tell me stories
Telling stories — you create the impression about yourself, because they should be. But to lie or to tell the truth — a purely personal matter.
Tell stories in which you:
have been popular among women;
— you listen to other men;
— you appreciate;
— you know exactly what they want and are not afraid of difficulties.
Simply put, your story needs to represent you in a positive light, but unobtrusive. When you openly brag is bragging when you talk about it casually — it’s PR. All present with dignity: you’re so cool, a priori, and tell it to others, once again has no need.
Visualize your communication
Talking with girls is not a subject of conversation, which sets out the facts without digression. Razbaby his speech with images, let the girl take in what you say. The girl should not just listen but to imagine. Details picture in her head. More nuanced — and you’re talking interesting.
For example, discuss with her how great it would be if you were together on the ocean in a cafe with a bamboo walls. Two cocktails of fresh mango with ice would save you from the heat, you were hiding from the sun under umbrellas and waited for the sunset. Etc.
Change the subject of conversation
To speak one and the same subject endlessly, impossible, there comes a point when the subject is bored. To jump to another topic use the word „Incidentally“. This is a versatile bunch-crossing, use it.
Just saying, „by the Way“ and the transition to any topic. With experience you will be able to make the transition very smooth and imperceptible. Thus, you can think of any topics to talk to a girl
Typical mistakes made by men when communicating:
Don’t turn your date into an interrogation.
Try to ask 5-10 questions in a row to a friend — most likely you will break sooner, they say, what do you want… So why should it be interested in a girl who you do not know. Before to take something, you need something to give.
If the questions began to ask the girl, that’s great — she shows interest in you.
Search report (search for common topics for chatting with a girl).
If you nervously start to look for a topic of conversation, which would be like the girl, you will only cause pity. You will confused. Is this your goal? A girl’s got to play by your rules. Talk about what is interesting to you (but don’t forget about rules). The girl herself will tell you the theme, which might be interested in it. The standard example of an ordinary date — we sat down and began to look for common topics of conversation. Now it’s not about you. We hope.
The slowness of communication.
A typical situation: communication is good — sit until it stops, until you get bored or not going to bore each other. Create the deficit itself. Finish date should be at the peak, in this case, the time until your next meeting works for you, she will think of you. Beginners usually hard to end the date at its peak to continue it should be only in case, if you are then going to move on to something else. We know how to do it on the first date, but now not about it. For starters it is better to limit your communication 1-1.5 hours.
The girl accustomed to talk in social networks, ICQ or chat, if you’re going to all the time to communicate with her there. To flirt she will also be able to network, but in the real world can move away from you. You certainly don’t need.
If a girl sends you a text, answer it, but after the second SMS, do not be lazy to dial the number and talk to her on the phone.
The voice is important.
Here is the brief description. Without making mistakes, which are here described, and by following simple rules, you’ll be able to raise your communication skill. But the reading of the article does not give results. You need to start doing something right now.
Here’s an exercise: remember what I told you about the story? Do yourself a workpiece, at least, five or six stories. History pick up different, so they can help you out in any situation. Having little pieces, learning to improvise easier. Sketched out a plan for these stories. Can record their names, and in the head to keep detailed plan. And most importantly: Use them!
At least 2 times a day include stories in your conversation.
And finally, chip „Alternative history“.
This is a cool game which gives a very vivid emotions to the girl if done right. Offer the girl an alternative choice tomorrow.
For example, talk to her on the subject was for her to do if I woke up tomorrow Queen of Nepal? Or you can talk about what you do if you woke up tomorrow in each other’s bodies like in the movie „Love-carrot“. Fantasize, laugh over possible situations, talk dirty can be, but do not overdo it. Should not create the impression that you started this topic just to talk about your gender, dressing up in women’s etc.
Let her imagination unfold, let the girl laugh. Argue, develop the theme.